Hear me out. I’m going to admit that most lawyers get it wrong here, and I used to be one of them. I used to do exactly what I would absolutely cringe at doing now.

It’s really amazing how much my clients have taught me – they’ve made me ponder every estate planning scenario imaginable, and I’ve had a chance to help them go on vacation without worrying, or sleep better at night, or go into childbirth or surgery with peace of mind.

So here’s what you need to know: Your beneficiary designations override your will.

I realize “beneficiary designations” is not the most popular topic you could read about. But I’m willing to bet you already have beneficiary designations whether you know it or not, and it’s your children or loved ones who will either be greatly benefited – or greatly damaged – by your beneficiary designations.

You have beneficiaries already designated if you own anything like:

  • Life insurance policies
  • Retirement accounts
  • Annuities

How do I know this? Because when you set up your life insurance policy or retirement account, the application you filled out required that you name your beneficiaries right then and there.

And if you’ve done your Last Will or if you plan to, the reality is that your beneficiary designations override your will.

This means that if you’ve named a minor child as the beneficiary of your life insurance policy or retirement account, those funds will be paid to your minor child directly – but only once a probate judge (a stranger) decides who handles their money until your child is 18. A judge can choose anyone they want – not just someone who you’re related to or who you trust.

This happens regardless of what your Last Will says, because your beneficiary designations override your Last Will.

In other words, your Will may say that assets left to your minor children are managed by your adult sibling until your children reach age 25 – however, when a minor child is named directly as the beneficiary of an asset, your Will does NOT apply to this asset, a judge does NOT have to choose your adult sibling, and your child gets EVERYTHING at 18 instead of 25. Sounds crazy, right?

Hello heartache, uncertainty and fees.

I once helped a mom with two young children in a case where her ex-husband (the children’s father) left everything to his two children, but it was all left to them directly through beneficiary designations. And while this may sound crazy, the law says the surviving mom is NOT automatically the one in charge. She had to go to court, make her case about why she was responsible enough for the job, and then wait for a judge to decide. And she had to do this in two separate court proceedings because there is a separate court proceeding for each child. Now that she has been appointed, she has to check in with the court every single year until each child turns 18 so the court can watch over her shoulder and see exactly how the money is being managed.

If her ex-husband had known that his beneficiary designations would override his Will, maybe he would have made it a lot easier on his children by planning ahead.

It was a really sad situation that could have been avoided.

And this doesn’t happen just with minor children; something unintended can happen to adult children and any other beneficiaries as well.

In another case, we helped two adult children where their mom had set up her Will (not drafted by ys) to go 50/50 to her children, but for her daughter she set up a special needs trust in her Will, meaning that her daughter wouldn’t be personally in charge of her own money due to a disability. Her mom thought the special needs trust in her will would take care of her daughter. And she was right, it would have – except that the mom didn’t realize that EVERY single asset she owned already named her two children as 50/50 beneficiaries and that this trumped her will. Literally not one single asset the mom owned went into the special needs trust because her beneficiary designations trumped her Will. Instead, her daughter received her half outright without the special needs protection – exactly how her mom didn’t want it to happen.

And that brings me back to my first point that I used to be one of those lawyers who didn’t discuss beneficiary designations with my estate planning clients. I would simply draft a Will because someone asked me to. They had always heard “I need a will” so they got one. I didn’t have enough experience to ask about any of their beneficiary designations.

Today, I would never skip that part with my clients.

If I were to draft a Will or Trust for you that contains well thought-out provisions for who is in charge of money left to your children or other heirs but I skipped over your beneficiary designations, your estate plan would not be worth a single dime. Whether you paid $200 or $20,000 for your estate plan, it literally wouldn’t be worth anything. Your minor heirs would have money paid out to them directly, forcing your children into a court proceeding that your estate plan was supposed to avoid. Or your adult heirs would receive assets outright and completely exposed to their ex-spouses and creditors.

Sometimes when my clients come in, they still have their parents, siblings, or even exes named as beneficiaries even though they’re now married and have children. After you pass away, there is absolutely nothing that can be done to change who receives your life insurance and retirement accounts if you haven’t updated your beneficiary designations – I’ve seen exes get a full life insurance policy even though the person who passed away was married with kids. No one can force a named beneficiary to not receive the funds, no matter what life changes have happened in the meantime.

So you can see how important your beneficiary designations are and why simply printing out and signing a cookie-cutter Will isn’t gonna cut it.

Here’s what you can do today to avoid this:

  • Review your current beneficiary designations ASAP. If you don’t have a copy of your beneficiary designations, call your financial institution to get a copy.
  • If anyone is named as beneficiary who you wouldn’t want to be the recipient of that asset, update your beneficiary designations immediately.
  • If you have anyone or anything you care about and want to protect, complete your estate plan by giving us a call at 870-275-4304 or by scheduling a 15-minute chat with a team member to get your questions answered.


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